What My Best Friend and I Say When We Talk About Our Breast Cancer

We’ve had very different journeys, but both of us wanted to show our kids that Mom is a fighter.

One year ago, one of my best friends was diagnosed with breast cancer — just a month after my diagnosis. Our journey’s would be so different. She celebrated at my pre-chemo party with me (above, right) and the next day told me of her own diagnosis. We wrote this piece together shortly afterward, but she wasn’t ready to share her story. Now she is. Now, just a year after her double mastectomy, Ashley Phillips is not only ready to share her journey, she’s also an inspiration to me and will be to so many others when you read what she just did!

Read the Full story at GoodHousekeeping.com.

Women Crush Wednesday

I have lots of crushes.  But today on #WCW (women crush Wednesday) I want to intro you to masbisjoux and Morgan, the mom of 3 behind it.

Morgan read about my #FutureCancerSurvivor Journey and wanted to send me some magic with her 🦄necklace.  She told me “It’s everything to me . Hope and Magic.  I believe it brings love into my mind body and soul and beams love out to others. It is a piece that reminds me of all of our childhood innocence, that despite race religious, culture, we all are born pure and we are all sisters and brothers on this earth and we all need to believe and come together. It reminds me of my late incredible mother who passed away but is still with me everyday, when I think of her I touch my necklace and am  reminded of the Magic she shines on me always. Because magic never ends, and neither does love.” Now I proudly wear this little piece of magic from my new friend.  We all need magic.  We all need love.  We all need support.  I hope you support this entrepreneurial mom who hopes to get her line into more stores and give back to charity with each sale!

Visit masbisjoux to shop the collection and use promo code The MOMS and 10% of each sale will go to the Susan G. Komen Foundation.

#moms #love #charity#unicorns #magic #friendship #survivor #cancer #LiveLaughLove 📷by @photos_by_jb

The MOMS & Miles Bakshi, Ramsey Naito, Tom McGrath and Marla Frazee

The MOMS hosted a Mamarazzi event with Miles Bakshi, Director Tom McGrath, Producer Ramsey Ann Naito, and Author Marla Frazee to discuss their new hit film The Boss Baby, and The Dolby 88 screening room.

Take a look at some shots from the event where our guests had the chance to meet The Boss Baby himself! The Boss Baby that arrives in theaters next Friday, March31!

Denise Surprises Her Boys With No Wig

When I decided to go for a blow out yesterday for the first time since chemo …it was right before I had to pick up my boys from school. I didn’t have my video rolling initially but I had my hood up and right away Jaylan said, “Mom, you aren’t wearing you wig!”

Take a look for the rest! I’m so proud of these two. They have been through so much and are my strength if you can believe that of an 8 and 12 year old!

Denise’s 1st Hair Blow out since shaving her head!

This is a BIG deal.  Almost 1 year ago today (March 15th), I shaved my head.  I had my 2nd chemo treatment for Breast Cancer and woke up to most of my hair on my pillow case.

I shaved my head at Bitz & Pieces, put my wig on and went right to work at our Mamarazzi event with Jennifer Garner.

Today, I was working with Melissa and for some reason decided to go for a blowout…..

What are the most important things you look for when planning a family vacation?

by Denise Albert

Here’s my top 5:

  • Inclusive.  The bills and meals add up otherwise
  • Weather.  It’s never a guarantee, but certain places have better odds than others.
  • Convenient to get to.  A few hours on the plane, then a short drive always makes it best when traveling with kids.
  • Continual Options for Activities for the kids, for me and for us together.
  • Luxury Property and nice rooms.

Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia in Punta Cana

Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia in Punta Cana

My recent trip to the Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia in Punta Cana with my boys and extended family excelled in all of those! Everything on site was included! The weather was dreamy. It was a 3 1/2 hour plane ride from NY and less than 30 minutes in a taxi once we arrived. We were at the pool an hour after we landed. And they even had a separate check in for my boys which was such a special experience. The Fantasia property has guest rooms with the ability to accommodate families of up to five people, allowing for larger families to stay together and save even more.

The activities were endless. I did a yoga class by the pool. My entire family took a water aerobics class together. My kids participated in so many other activites that just popped up throughout the day in the pool. From a fun course to water polo. It was a beautiful short walk to the beach, kids and teen club and the night entertainment at the theater was a perfect way to relax after our full days. There was never a moment to be bored and I got to just chill and watch in the fun. The Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia is a new concept for the brand, having a luxury all-inclusive offering in a family setting that is suited for the whole family.

Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia in Punta Cana

Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia in Punta Cana

Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia in Punta Cana

We took a chocolate making class at the Grand Bahia Principe Bavaro. We tried this on-site rope course. We relaxed on the beach. We did it all. In a close, beautiful, luxurious way without breaking the bank.

Bahia Principe

Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia in Punta Cana

Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia in Punta Cana

Luxury Bahia Principe Fantasia in Punta Cana

I Never Expected a Year with Cancer to Be My Best

Since my diagnosis, I embraced life more fully than ever before.

You only live once. 

Life is short. 

Live life to the fullest.

I want to believe that I have always lived this way; but I probably didn’t. After a year in treatment for breast cancer, though, I can now say all of these sayings and really mean it. It was a long year. It was my worst year. But it may have also been my best year.

Read the Full story at GoodHousekeeping.com.

Who works from The B’office?

Working from home has its challenges. I work out of my Boffice aka, the bedroom and office.  There are many pros and also cons to this.  Everyone’s situation is different.  For me, it allows me to be more present with my children everyday. It allows me to be there when they get home from school, it allows me to run to school pick up for my little one and yet it is also a curse.

I hate when they are home and I am stuck on calls in another room and I hate when I have to shove them aside while focused on work.  I guess I dont like that they have to see that.  I want to give them all my attention when they want it. On the other hand, I love that they see a hard working mom, who is trying to do it all.

Today I have found the balance while working from home.  It could possibly be because my children are older now and more independent.  It could be that they are more self sufficient.  It could be that I am out at meetings most of the day, so not constantly at home.  It could be that I own a company called The MOMS, and people are more undestanding given the nature of our business.

There have been those moments, where you go on mute during a call and tell your kids to shut up nicely or where you go on mute while cooking dinner and cleaning dishes so your clients dont hear the pots and pans and water. It is almost quite comical sometimes all the chaos, but that is also parenting.

I think the bottom line is that we are just trying to do the best that we can as working parents, and we are now blessed and cursed with devices that allow to us work from really anywhere.

So, on that note, this video just made our day over here at The MOMS.

Take a look…..

BIG NEWS For Denise! Susan G. Komen NYC’s Impact Award Recipient 2017

Thank YOU! I wouldn’t wish Cancer on anyone. But since I didn’t have a choice, I wanted to make a difference. When I attended this event last year when Sandra Lee received this award, I was nervous, in the midst of chemo, and honored to have been invited. Now, apparently, Susan G. Komen Greater NYC thinks I’m making an impact. I’m incredibly honored and humbled to be the recipient of their Surviving With Impact Award on May 23rd, 2017. I have so many people to thank including each and every one of YOU for your love, support, likes, and shares to allow me to try to make an impact. Thanks to my #workwife Melissa Musen Gerstein for her partnership with me in The Moms which allowed me to have this voice, my parents Benita Caress Albert Oberlander and social-media shy Marv, my boys, family and friends for everything. I’m one lucky Surviving (#FutureCancerSurvivor) Mom. If you can join us, please do. If not, please continue to share so we can do our best to fight breast cancer! CLICK HERE www.komennyc.org/impactawards for tickets and donations!

 

The MOMS: Danica McKellar Mamarazzi®

The MOMS hosted a Mamarazzi event with Danica McKellar for her new book, Goodnight Numbers with Mathnasium at The National Museum of Mathematics.

She may be best known as Winnie Cooper but Danica as a mom is best known as a math whiz and she wants to teach your kids. Is her son good at math? How does she discipline?
http://www.themoms.com/minute-moms-danica-mckellar/

Photo Credit Photos by Jon B


  

 

A Minute with The MOMS and Jennifer Beals

Jennifer Beals has appeared in over 50 films. But no one can forget her iconic 80’s hit movie, Flashdance that put her on the map.

The MOMS sat down with Beals, a mother of one to talk about her new NBC TV Show, Taken and film, Before I Fall.

Beals talks about her projects, motherhood and her favorite kind of date night (this you don’t want to miss). Here is a Minute With The MOMS…

HOW NEW YORK RIDER DENISE ALBERT FINDS JOY

Every Monday, instructor Emily Burkhardt sets out to interview members of the FLY community–from instructors, to staff members, to riders. What does Flywheel mean to them? And how do they find joy in their day-to-day? This week, meet New York rider, Denise Albert.

By: EMILY BURKHARDT

Hey FlyFAM!

This week’s Monday Motivation is very special to me. Denise Albert is a rider that always stays on the brighter side of life, no matter what is going on around her. She is one of the most inspiring people I have ever met, and I am extremely lucky to know her.

Here is what Denise had to say….

 

Do Your Kids Share a Room?

Living in Manhattan, most of us live in smaller spaces. You learn to adapt and make it work for the love of New York.

When you have children, you find yourself getting extra creative with your living conditions. This is also the time where you find yourself questioning New York City living. We made the decision not to move out of the city years ago, so it was time to build a wall; a wall of peace.

I have seen closets become nurseries, living rooms transitioned into bedrooms and even hallways turned into playrooms. This is Manhattan living. But for someone like me who grew up in the suburbs and not in an apartment, I have my moments where I feel completely “space frustrated.”

I have 3 children in NYC, and when you don’t have a basement or a backyard, you crave any corner you can get your hands on. You long for your own space, even if it is just enough room for your own bed and that is exactly what we created, a new space for each of our daughters who shared a room.

This did not happen overnight. I contemplated for a long time over this. To build a wall or not to, that was the question.  My husband thought I was building two prison cells.  Our two daughters have shared a room for years.  It’s a nice sized room, but they both really needed their own space: a space to study, a space to be creative and a space for peace and quiet.

I was connected with Annette Jaffe Interiors who does really big design projects. I feared she would not want to bother with something so small.  We met at my apartment and in one second, she knew just how to create the space.  She has vision and perspective and showed me how to take one room and turn it into two.  We were able to create two bedrooms using a pressurized wall.  It is basically a temporary wall that can be put up and taken down, which also made me feel more comfortable knowing that it wasn’t permanent.

The next step was to purge.  I don’t have one organizational gene in my body.  Lauire Palau from Simply B Organized was my next call. She holds your hand and preaches the “ESP”method, which is empty, sort and purge. This was extremely helpful for the preparation of the new bedrooms.

In one day, we had a wall built, two new bedrooms, a fresh coat of paint, new floors and smart and affordable furniture from IKEA.  My girls got to be involved too by selecting their new furniture and accent pieces which gave them a sense of pride by allowing them to be creative while moving out of their “babyish” bedroom.

Sometimes, you need someone to hold your hand. Sometimes you need someone to help push you to make a decision. Not everyone has a Feng shui mind set, or an organizational make up, I certainly don’t.

Hopefully many more creative ideas, peaceful studying and memories will happen for my daughters in their new rooms.  They now have room to think and a room for some peace, even if we built a wall between them.  At least this is the type of wall that won’t create any extra tension in their world.

Meet Coralee! She’s our #WCW

Meet Coralee!  She’s our #WCW (Woman Crush Wednesday), she’s not only got incredible advice for mom entrepreneurs but a product that is helpful for every mom.
Don’t make “help” a four-letter word. Ask for help. Accept offers of help. Every amazing mom needs her support system.

Coralee Dixon was consumed with guilt over not preserving her kids memories and milestones. She couldn’t find the time like most of us.  She was posting photos and captions on social media ( like most of us) that had the dates and milestones, but that was all. She was upset that she wasn’t making a baby book like the one her mom made for her when she was little.  She pondered over this and looked for solutions to help capture her own baby’s memories.  She couldn’t find anything that could work or that seemed helpful.  Then she had her “Big Idea” and here is how she did it.   Please meet Coralee and Shortcake Inc. our Mom of the Week!

Why did you start your business?
I started Shortcake because I wanted to help modern families preserve and share their memories in a way that was both beautiful and easy. The inspiration came when, a little before my daughter’s first birthday, I started feeling guilty because I hadn’t been writing down her milestones and special moments in the baby book I bought for her. Both my mom and my mother-in-law had kept lovely baby books for my husband and I, so I felt awful that I hadn’t done the same. Then I thought about how I had shared most of my daughter’s most important moments with family and friends on social media, which included written descriptions, captured the date, and received some fun comments that I liked looking back on. “Somebody must have a business that will help me turn that into a nice album, right?” I couldn’t find what I was looking for, so I decided to create it myself.

2. Where do you see your business in 5 years?
Today Shortcake is a custom album and photo book design service for modern families. We turn your social content and family photos into premium keepsake albums. In 5 years, I see us expanding our market beyond moms and dads to grandparents, weddings, pets, vacations, and school events. We’ll implement some tech and automation into our process to help our designers work more quickly, while maintaining our hallmark personal touch and unrivaled customization options. And we will continue expanding our services beyond albums to new areas, such as greeting cards and invitations (where we’ve already begun experimenting).

3. If there was one tip you could give a working mom what would it be?
Don’t make “help” a four-letter word. Ask for help. Accept offers of help. Every amazing mom needs her support system.

4. If you could do one thing over as a mom what would it be?
Potty training. Not because I enjoyed it – exactly the opposite. I felt so helpless the first time – I had no idea what I was doing and felt like a complete failure. Now that I’ve been through it once I realize how foolish it was to put so much pressure on myself. I feel bad because I made the experience more stressful for everyone than it needed to be. It also would have helped if I had not been pregnant with our second at the time (wine would have been really helpful – I’ve realized a laid-back attitude is a must!).

5. Whats your Mom Motto?
Do the best you can and give lots of hugs.

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How Good Can Come from Humiliating TSA Experience…

By Denise Albert

I never imagined how my horrific and humiliating experience with the TSA could turn into something so positive. I’m honored to be included in the TSA’s piece on Sprinklr.com. I’ve never been more proud to show my kids how good things can come from bad.

Meet the Team Transforming the Reputation of the TSA

At 440 federalized airports across the United States, 44,000 TSA security officers will screen 2 million passengers. They will do that again tomorrow. That’s 730 million passenger screenings annually, and all it takes is one missed needle in the haystack for the consequences to be catastrophic. To read the full story visit Sprinklr.com

When Women and Moms Support Each Other it Looks Like This…

We can all learn from each other. When women and moms support each other,incredible things happen.  Meet Amber….

When Amber Michels created Your Milk Shoppe, which supports and empowers moms through maternity services.  They offer services such as errand running, childproofing, meal delivery and in home consultations.  We wish we knew about a service like this when we were new moms.  You can feel so isolated and alone and to know other mothers are there for you like Amber and Kimmie from Your Milk Shoppe…well they just had to be on our Women Crush Wednesday.

Why did you start your business? 

When I was a new mom I struggled so much during the first few months. I thought that I was so prepared because I read all of the books, took every parenting class under the sky, and bought the best baby gear. But, all of the sudden my world was turned upside when my daughter was born. As a new mom I could not believe the love I felt for her, it was amazing. Unfortunately, I struggled with extreme post-partum anxiety and it hindered my ability to fully enjoy being a mom; it was so isolating. I began to take steps to get help, I made a point to journal about all of my struggles, and before I knew it a business plan was writing itself. It was solely based around supporting and empowering moms through services, research and education. I then went on to become a certified Maternity Consultant and learned the ins and outs of an industry I didn’t even know existed. I toyed around with different business names and concepts, but kept coming back to the same thing: I wanted to be the “milk” for other new moms… because moms need milk, too. From there, my business, Your Milk Shoppe, was born.

Where do you see your business in 5 years?

Growing! It wasn’t long after I started Your Milk Shoppe that I realized I couldn’t do this all on my own… nor did I want to! My sister-in-law was a huge believer and lover of Your Milk Shoppe from the very beginning, so when it came time to ask someone to join me, she was a given. We were both raising our little ones in big cities, away from family, and we knew this was something that was so desperately needed in both of our respective parts of the country. There truly is strength in numbers, and together we are Moms on a Mission. (Plus, I’m convinced every woman needs a workwife, and I’m so glad she’s mine!)

I launched Your Milk Shoppe in Greenville, SC, and Kimmie is in Chicago, IL. We are excited to share that we are currently expanding into other cities throughout the United States, starting this spring in Atlanta, GA! Aside from the Shoppe’s in Greenville, Chicago, and Atlanta, we also offer virtual one-on-one consulting services so we can help mamas, regardless of where they are located. We will also begin to host classes that will help moms (and dads and siblings, too!) prepare for baby and so much more! There is a lot on our docket right now, and I couldn’t more excited for this growth and the opportunity to support and uplift moms all over the country.

In 5 years I hope for Your Milk Shoppe to be a household name, a universal support system that will allow moms all over the country to access the necessary information they need in order to fully enjoy their parenting journey!

If there was one tip you could give a working mom what would it be? 

When you are at work, be at work completely. Stop feeling guilty about not being home more. When you are at home, be at home completely. Stop feeling guilty about not working more. You owe yourself some peace of mind!

If you could do one thing over as a mom what would it be? 

I would have asked for help more as a new mom instead of trying so hard to appear that I had it all together. No new mom has it together. Period. We’re all trying, but the struggle is SO real. And you know what? That’s OK! That’s all part of it. The more honest we are with ourselves and each other about this beautiful, stressful, funny, terrifying, one-of-a-kind time in life, the better off we’ll all be.

Whats your Mom Motto?

Community over Competition. Hands down. Whether it’s with other mamas or other business owners, one thing is true: there is nothing more powerful than women who genuinely and fiercely support and love one another.

For more on Your Milk Shoppe please visit them on Facebook, and Instagram.

Do You Eat Your Kids Leftovers?

Today our lives are busier than ever. Today more than ever we are rushing from work to the kids to making and shopping for meals. We are constantly taking care of our families. We are constantly juggling all day long.

The family mealtime is something of the past. We are actually scheduling family time in our calendars now. We are eating on the go. We are eating our kids left overs. We are eating standing up.

When we were approached by a new food company that offers Moms the opportunity to have a well balanced meal in minutes; we were enticed.  Personal Trainer Food allows you, (mom) to have a well balanced organized meal in minutes.  We asked several Moms across the country to try this new program.  So many jumped on board and are thrilled with the results.

The food arrives at your doorstep, already pre-packaged and fresh.  For us, it was about the food organization, not just the weight loss around this program.

If you want to learn more about Personal Trainer Food or work with The MOMS on programs like this, please dont hesitate to reach out and use the contact form on our site.

When ordering Personal Trainer Food use promo code PTFMOMS125 that will take $125 off your purchase!

Disclosure: This post is in partnership with Personal Trainer Food, all opinions expressed are our own.